by Philliy
The argument I hear against bisexuals, especially from gay folk, is that it’s just a stopping point to being gay. Apparently, coming out of the closet as a ‘full’ gay can be done in stages, one of them being the stage of bisexual. So when someone identifies as bi, you’ve got a gay person smiling indulgently and saying “Oh honey, thus insinuating that bi doesn’t really exist and you’re simply in denial about being full-fledged GAY. The catch with this is that sometimes identifying as bisexual really is a temporary move before accepting the label of gay or lesbian. However, my point is that, other times, it is not. So to be on the safe side, I’d advise giving the person the benefit of the doubt, accept them as bi, then accept them as whatever they want to be later. Like I said earlier, it’s unfair and disrespectful to strip someone of an identity they’ve claimed, just as much as it is to ... one upon them.
I’ve had more than one lesbian friend say that she had issues dating a bisexual woman. It’s not an easy identity to understand- even my own friend confessed that he had no idea bisexual people could marry because it would mean being monogamous with one sex and forsaking the other. I’ve heard allusions that bisexuals are rampant sex-crazed people who just want to ... with as many people as they can. Some members of the gay community believe that bisexuals are ‘copping out’ by refusing to be either/or, thus allegedly avoiding the full stigma of being gay by keeping a link to the opposite sex. I’ve been told I can’t identify as bisexual until I’ve had sex with a woman (to which I respond, do you ask straight people to lose their virginity in order to prove that they’re straight? I didn’t think so.).
One post isn’t enough to discuss all the incorrect and misleading beliefs circulating about bisexual people. But let me be clear, They exist. They are here. They deserve the same respect as heterosexuals, as gays and lesbians, they deserve to be seen instead of dismissed. If you don’t understand bisexuality, ask about it in a respectful fashion. Seek to educate yourself. facilitate understanding.
Don’t try to shut down they’re identity just so you can be more comfortable, don’t disrespect them out of your ignorance, don’t be hatin’. And Oh, don’t try to tell me that God don’t love them either, because He does.
I’ve had more than one lesbian friend say that she had issues dating a bisexual woman. It’s not an easy identity to understand- even my own friend confessed that he had no idea bisexual people could marry because it would mean being monogamous with one sex and forsaking the other. I’ve heard allusions that bisexuals are rampant sex-crazed people who just want to ... with as many people as they can. Some members of the gay community believe that bisexuals are ‘copping out’ by refusing to be either/or, thus allegedly avoiding the full stigma of being gay by keeping a link to the opposite sex. I’ve been told I can’t identify as bisexual until I’ve had sex with a woman (to which I respond, do you ask straight people to lose their virginity in order to prove that they’re straight? I didn’t think so.).
One post isn’t enough to discuss all the incorrect and misleading beliefs circulating about bisexual people. But let me be clear, They exist. They are here. They deserve the same respect as heterosexuals, as gays and lesbians, they deserve to be seen instead of dismissed. If you don’t understand bisexuality, ask about it in a respectful fashion. Seek to educate yourself. facilitate understanding.
Don’t try to shut down they’re identity just so you can be more comfortable, don’t disrespect them out of your ignorance, don’t be hatin’. And Oh, don’t try to tell me that God don’t love them either, because He does.
Topics:
Friendship, Relationship, One night stand
