I have always enjoyed different things sexually. Call me a pervert or call me interesting. Looking at my life, I have tried LOTS of things in my life. I remember the first time I went to a swing club. It was in <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" /><st1:State w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">New York</st1:place></st1:State> when the original Plato’s Retreat opened. I was invited by a girlfriend of my ex. We had a blast. It was something new. <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p>
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As years went by, we learned a lot about that lifestyle. The old ways. When NO meant NO and no one was hurt. The difference today is that people sometimes cannot accept a “no” and they feel rejected and come back and talk bad about one another. People look at swingers and other similar types of lifestyles and think it is a free for all. With the dawn of the Internet and all the swinger sites available, what has happened is that many have taken advantage of others and found ways of cheating online and met others to do that. Cheat! And when they are discovered, they come back like nothing has happened and will talk bad about the people that reject them. <o:p></o:p>
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Why do some do this? It is the only way they can get laid. Sorry to be blunt, but that is what we have discovered. Men, and sometimes women too, think they can get an easy piece and try to lure others to join them. But they have no clue that they are the ones making fools of themselves. That is where single men get their bad reputation. Hence, the all famous, “NO SINGLE MEN” syndrome. The fact is that the majority of these “single men” are not single. They are cheating husbands looking for some strange. <o:p></o:p>
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But women are sometimes just as bad. Again, they lure on others and do the same thing. But normally, this is not seen as bad. Most couples in the lifestyle, are always welcoming women, no matter what the conditions are. As for us, we personally call them cheaters too. <o:p></o:p>
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But let me add at this point, we are NOT condemning anyone with this post. It is how we perceive this. <o:p></o:p>
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With that said, we do enjoy the company of single men with my wife. It is something new to us and we enjoy this aspect of the lifestyle. I guess that is what is now called “hotwife” lifestyle. There are many things that we do and some things we do not do. Again, as we meet with different people, we let them know what we are looking for and if they are interested, then things may go forward. (keyword: MAY) <o:p></o:p>
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I guess the main point that I am trying to get out is that we need to respect others feelings and wants. To give you an example, we had a man contact my wife and said,”If your hubby can’t be with you, then I will bring a couple of friend over to assist.” This guy assumed that we were into that, which may be ok on the right situation, but not at his demand. I am NOT into humiliation! I am into pleasure! Again, I am not downing anyone who is into this type of lifestyle, it is just not me. <o:p></o:p>
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The other thing one has to understand in the lifestyle is that the woman is in control of what ultimately will happen. When I was younger, I used to say jokingly, but it is a fact, that the woman knows if you are gonna get laid. So guys, play your cards right and SHE might make the right decision. <o:p></o:p>
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OK, that is a bit that is on my mind. Let me know what you think.
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