May is National Masturbation Month, having been so declared by the Godmother of Masturbation herself, Dr. Betty Dodson. Why bother to have a National Masturbation Month here in the Masturbation Nation? Since just about everybody plays sexual solitaire at least sometimes, it’s virtually the country’s—and the world’s—preferred leisure past time, regardless of the month; far more popular than playing football (Sperm Wars notwithstanding), blackjack or even the lottery.
Yet far too few of us private Onanists are willing to admit publicly that we indulge. Here in our Land of the Relatively Free, we have plenty of Gay Pride and Leather Pride, but not much Masturbation Pride. “Sex for one,” as relatively harmless and healing as we now know it to be, is still condemned and ridiculed as an illicit, shameful act by our religious and political leaders, not to mention many of our parents. Thus, most of us keep our single-handed pleasures under the covers and in the closet.
National Masturbation Month is a respectful attempt to open that closet door just a crack, letting a little Spring sunlight shine in on that which is usually hidden and forbidden.
It’s all part of your masturbation education. Yes, it may feel like playing hooky, but masturbation can teach you a lot about your own body: what kinds of touch arouse you, what positions relax you, what fantasies stimulate you, what props get you hot. Masturbation helps you to find your mental and physical rhythm and style for maximum orgasmic pleasure.
Partner sex is more romantic, of course, and usually more meaningful, but it also tends to be more stressful. Unless you’re a narcissist, you probably concentrate more on your lover’s pleasure than your own. During masturbation, you don’t have to worry about pleasing anybody but yourself. That way, you can relax and explore at your own pace, learning all kinds of stuff about your erotic responses that you can use to become not only a better lover, but a more orgasmic, relaxed, happy, peaceful, sexually satisfied person.
For instance, if you’ve never done kegels or PC (pubococcygeus) muscle exercises, the perfect time to try them is during a private session of solo sex. Just in case you don’t know, both men and women have PC muscles. To locate yours, concentrate on the area between your genitals and your anus, and squeeze it as if you’re stopping a stream of .... Then release. Now squeeze as you breathe in and release as you breathe out. That’s it! And that’s a lot.
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