wife help

I'll just echo what's already been said. TAKE IT SLOW AND COMMUNICATE!!!

Communication is HUGE!! Communication is key in any successful relationship be it personal or professional, intimate or platonic. Yalk about both of your fantasies. I'm sure she has her own as well.

My wife is also shy. It takes her a while to get comfortable around new people so the odds of a NSA with a stranger is slim. We won't be going to pick up a random guy at a bar anytime soon. But if we meet someone and she gets comfortable enough...who knows what could happen.