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What is it about transgression that is so erotic? And how is it that sexual desire fades between couples in the most loving and caring relationships? Ester Perel gives a wonderful TED talk on this topic that is well worth viewing. Her basic premise is that there is a fundamental tension between love and desire. To love is “to have” while to desire is “to want.” She points out that the very things that nurture love such as caring, fairness, and responsibility serve to stifle desire which thrives on naughtiness, dominance, and mischief. The erotic mind is not polite or proper.

For me the hotwife, wife sharing, and cuckold fantasies revolve around loving couples who are seeking out that transgressive spark to reignite the desire between them. The women do this by granting strange men access to their sexuality, which is normally reserved for their husband or boyfriend. They are breaking the rules and bringing novelty and mystery back into their stable, predictable relationships. As these wives are pursued by and submit to the aggression of other men, they are renewing themselves as objects of desire in the eyes of their husbands. partners. This is the sense of romantic adventure into mysterious erotic territory that I am working to capture.


Cheerio,
Gustav Jorgenson
London, 2014